It's Like That Ya'll
So I am finally recovering from my vacation. I chilled out this weekend. Got back on track. Worked out each morning, cleaned my house, did some laundry. Slid back into the routine.
Mr. 1969 and I thank all of you for your kind words and support. You guys are great.
He had resumes out immediately and has already had two phone interviews and he is hitting up a job fair in downtown Philly today. I am certain he will find something even better than he had before.
In the meantime, it's nice having him home. He's a neat freak so he has been cleaning, organizing and handling the house business. My lawn is immaculate. The hedges are trimmed. The garage is clean. I mean....if he can paint the Breakfast room and hang some curtains, the house will be straight. LOL
So does anyone ever talk to their mother and get pissed off? Is it just me?
My mom called and asked me what did we do this weekend. So I said that we won't be doing anything for a while since we just got back from the trip and Mr. 1969 just got laid off. She instantly starts going off on "People get laid off all the time" and
"what do I mean we won't be going anywhere?"..."It's just life and you have to struggle and deal with it like everyone else..."
Okay....PAUSE. Did I say anything about "Woe is me?"
Sometimes, West Indian mother's want to say the right thing. They may even formulate the thought in their head....but the minute they open their mouths??? They go on the attack. They really cannot help themselves. It's a disease.
So I very sweetly let the conversation die, hung up and went about my business.
After not hearing from me for two days, she will call and we'll progress as normal.
If I snapped out right about now, it would not be pretty. So I am willing to let that one go.
Other than that, gearing up for a normal week at work. Hopefully, something good will jump off so I can write about it.
Mr. 1969 and I thank all of you for your kind words and support. You guys are great.
He had resumes out immediately and has already had two phone interviews and he is hitting up a job fair in downtown Philly today. I am certain he will find something even better than he had before.
In the meantime, it's nice having him home. He's a neat freak so he has been cleaning, organizing and handling the house business. My lawn is immaculate. The hedges are trimmed. The garage is clean. I mean....if he can paint the Breakfast room and hang some curtains, the house will be straight. LOL
So does anyone ever talk to their mother and get pissed off? Is it just me?
My mom called and asked me what did we do this weekend. So I said that we won't be doing anything for a while since we just got back from the trip and Mr. 1969 just got laid off. She instantly starts going off on "People get laid off all the time" and
"what do I mean we won't be going anywhere?"..."It's just life and you have to struggle and deal with it like everyone else..."
Okay....PAUSE. Did I say anything about "Woe is me?"
Sometimes, West Indian mother's want to say the right thing. They may even formulate the thought in their head....but the minute they open their mouths??? They go on the attack. They really cannot help themselves. It's a disease.
So I very sweetly let the conversation die, hung up and went about my business.
After not hearing from me for two days, she will call and we'll progress as normal.
If I snapped out right about now, it would not be pretty. So I am willing to let that one go.
Other than that, gearing up for a normal week at work. Hopefully, something good will jump off so I can write about it.
posted by 1969 at
10:21 AM
15 Comments:
FIRST?! WHAT?!
Man, I'm glad you're settling back into the routine after vacation. I know how much it can be a cold reality check.
And, I'm really glad that Mr. 1969 seems to be hitting the ground running on the job front. I'm sure he'll find something soon...and very soon.
LAWD! @ mom-dukes. I have to say I'm pretty lucky that my own mom doesn't piss me off. BUT, my best friend's mom? She's got that same disease. And I hear about it every week. LOL Gotta love her.
1969, my mom pisses me off in other ways. My other mom (grandma) can say things at times that drive me crazy more than pissed off. I think as she has gotten older, she is careful with certain things she says. When I was younger, I used be like dang.
Will be praying for you and yours. I know how getting laid off is. You need a breather to regroup.
You are not alone, my mom is the same way and it grates on my last nerve!
LMAO.. ok I'm sorry because you are right.. west indian mothers want to say the right thing they sure do but their mind and their mouths do NOT communicate with each other!!!!
Oh so many times that has happened with me and my mom and what's worse now is that she lives with me.. so I have to BE REAL CAREFUL with what and how I say things!!!!
glad Mr. 1969 is back on di grind.. but tell him he can come clean up my house too if he is in di mood!!!! I need some pictures hung and tings!!! LOL and while he doing di work.. you and I can sit and lime!!! :)
and I know that workout helped clear your mind... its something about doing it FIRST THING in da morning!
The Mister will be back in the game in a minute! He'll probably be a least a little bit thankful for a week or two off.
In my old age I've finally realized that I can't really win in an argument with my mother. So like you I just let it go, and by the time we talk again it's all forgotten. I just hope I don't do the same thing to my kids!
i cant believe i just read everyone of your posts. phew! it was fun to read :)
i think you mentioned that your hubby is African? but then you also mentioned that he is from missisippi? if he's african, what country is he from?
BZ:
Mom dukes needed a Beat down today. RELAX, RELATE, RELEASE.
Shai:
I wish my mom would be careful but she really can't help herself. She doesn't mean it to come off as evil. LOL
Sunshine:
YES! You can relate.
BklynDiva: Yes, girl....Mr. 1969 is on the grind. He puts in work on that house. What do you need?
One From: I agree....I just act sweet, hang up and don't call her for a few days. She's raised two kids so I give her a pass. She's allowed to snap out.
Anon: You read ALL of my craziness? Damn, I feel like I should send you some flowers or a House of Dereon sweatshirt or something. Thanks for sticking with my life like that. My grandfather is from Durban, South Africa. Mr. 1969 (my hubby) was born in Pennsylvania but his parents are from Mississippi. Hope that helps and thanks so much for reading.
Mr. 1969 better chill out. LOL!!! Years ago I got laid off and did the same thing. I transformed into Mr. Mom. She loved it. Then I got a job and she expected me to be Mr. Mom still!!!!!
What's with mothers and daughters?!?!?
Fresh...mothers and daughters. That's just how it goes. LOL
SOOoooo glad I have sons so I don't have to subject them to any extra emotional drama.
You mean Mr. 1969 will stop when he gets a job? DAMN.
@1969
Great Blog!
I think I need to start exercising before I start my day. I have heard so many great things about it.
*Off the Subject*
Who is that in the stunning picture next to your comments? Its like the love radiates everytime I see it!
-SimplyB
My mom do the same thing.I ask myself am I going to be like that with my kids.I am going to make it a point not to be.
LawBaw...that is a picture of Harry Belafonte and Dorothy Dandridge from the movie Carmen Jones. I love the movie and love both actors. That picture is about Black Love and that's why I like it.
Gold...I ask myself the same thing. LOL
1969 - West Indian moms do it too? I thought it was a Black, Catholic mom thing.
I know my Jewish girlfriends think it's a Jewish mom thing. Hmm... my Korean gf thinks it's a Korean thing. ;-)
You're right. It's a mother daughter thing. When I'm fed up, I try to remind myself that it's only because she loves me so much. Hmph... let someone else try to get on my case and she might serve up the beat down.
girl glad you are settling back in to the swing of things..I normally get vacay blues once I return from a few days off..and hubby will find something soon in the meantime enjoy this extra time with him and let him BOND with the household as much as possible, lol...I definitely feel ya on the moms and daughters..OMG my moms will call me at 7am on a saturday..what are u doing? got a minute to talk to your mother since you are so busy and don't care about me anymore! WTF???
yes mom what do you want? OH nothing just wanted to check on you!...at 7am on a saturday!!!!
UGH!
Moms. *sigh. They mean well. Mine tries not to interfere too much. But sometimes she just can't help it.
I try not to be short, but sometimes they have to be told to back off.
What's funny is seeing my mom do all she fussed w/ my grandmother about, only to turn around and do the same to us. LOL.
Good post.
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