Tasty Thursday
Hey world.
I am feeling better today. Thanks to everyone for the love and support. I do appreciate all the prayers and well wishes. I will transfer all of them to my mom!!!!
On Saturday, I will be celebrating 6 years of marriage. SIX FREAKIN' YEARS!!!!!!! Unbelievable.
Now I will tell you all that I have a nice home, two beautiful children and a good husband. I know that I am blessed beyond belief. BUT....marriage is not for the faint of heart. An African (thanks for the new word blog fam) will test every last nerve that you have.
It takes major work. If the two people involved aren't committed, it won't work. I can honestly say that we had one year where I really was ready to just walk away. I was tired of giving of myself and getting nothing in return. I am sure he was feeling the same way. We had hit a crossroads, a make it or break it point. I am sure that all couples get there. It takes commitment to the marriage to work through the issues. To see the bigger picture...family, children, investments, etc.
It's so much easier to just say "F*ck it" and walk away. The true strength is to find a way to work problems out.
Many people think the problems stem from infidelity....the real issues are the day to day issues. Money, the kids, time, respect, kindness. Hell, I could probably handle cheating. It's the lack of effort that gets on my nerves.
I think when folks get married they stop treating each other like they did when they were dating. That's fine. But every once in a while....make an effort for your partner. Suprise them Remind them you do love them....for no reason.
My hubby doesn't read this blog. He probably doesn't know what a Blog is unless it involves sports or porn. LOL
I can't say he's perfect. I know I'm not. But I can say Happy Anniversary.
I am feeling better today. Thanks to everyone for the love and support. I do appreciate all the prayers and well wishes. I will transfer all of them to my mom!!!!
On Saturday, I will be celebrating 6 years of marriage. SIX FREAKIN' YEARS!!!!!!! Unbelievable.
Now I will tell you all that I have a nice home, two beautiful children and a good husband. I know that I am blessed beyond belief. BUT....marriage is not for the faint of heart. An African (thanks for the new word blog fam) will test every last nerve that you have.
It takes major work. If the two people involved aren't committed, it won't work. I can honestly say that we had one year where I really was ready to just walk away. I was tired of giving of myself and getting nothing in return. I am sure he was feeling the same way. We had hit a crossroads, a make it or break it point. I am sure that all couples get there. It takes commitment to the marriage to work through the issues. To see the bigger picture...family, children, investments, etc.
It's so much easier to just say "F*ck it" and walk away. The true strength is to find a way to work problems out.
Many people think the problems stem from infidelity....the real issues are the day to day issues. Money, the kids, time, respect, kindness. Hell, I could probably handle cheating. It's the lack of effort that gets on my nerves.
I think when folks get married they stop treating each other like they did when they were dating. That's fine. But every once in a while....make an effort for your partner. Suprise them Remind them you do love them....for no reason.
My hubby doesn't read this blog. He probably doesn't know what a Blog is unless it involves sports or porn. LOL
I can't say he's perfect. I know I'm not. But I can say Happy Anniversary.
posted by 1969 at
5:30 AM
11 Comments:
I don't think we are doing anything major this year. Last year was the 5th, we celebrated a bit more. This year, probably just cook out at home with the boys and toast with some mojitos.
A pet is a good start.....not the same but a good start :)
AWWWWWWWWWWWW Happy Anniversary Sis!!!
maybe if I continue to read your work I'll be inspired to actually have some faith or maybe even desire to partake in the institution of marriage at the moment I'm like eff dat LOL!!
My parents are happily married going on 24 years...they are Claire and Heathcliff for real...it's gross but its beautiful. I think I feel like if I can't be guaranteed what they have then I'd rather not even play the game.
Sounds like you've found the beauty in it despite the hard work...and that makes it worthwhile. God Bless you both!!!
Happy Anniversary!!!!! I know relationships aren't easy, which is why I applaud anyone who stays together. A true committment is not one in which everything is going good, its one that can overcome the bad times. Congrats to you and your husband, and regardless how you celebrate, I hope you have a good weekend.
Thanks RD and ON....It is not always a picnic but I try to look at the bigger picture and focus on what's important.
I didn't get married until I was 31...so RD, you have LOTS OF TIME.
Enjoy the weekend.
Big big BIG ups and CONGRATS to you and the hubby for fighting the good fight!
Your sentiments are sooo on point. (I'm what you call a happy divorcee'..one of them chicks who married WAY too young - emotionally, that is..)
Which, in my experience has meant - you gotta figure out who YOU are (as a woman), and then find a match for YOU. It 'aint easy, sometimes that shit is a drag from day to day, but the p's big hugs to you and hoping you ayoff is ASTOUNDING.
Here's BIG HUGS to you and Mr. 1969, and hoping for even better and better years to cum..oops, I mean, to come... :)
Keep forgetting to add you to my blogroll!
Damn, what da hell happened to my post?? lol
meant to type: yes thangs can get hard, but the payoff is astounding!
Then the rest of it. Yeah. Congrats again, I LOVE to hear these true (read: realistic vs. fairy tale) stories. :)
Happy Anniversary 1969/C!!!!
happy anniversary girl, i guess that's good enough reason for you not to be at the cook out in new york this weekend, although I'm a selfish gready blog reader who wanted to hear about all the fun great minds have when they get together!
i used to be in a big rush to tie the knot in my twenties, but in my thirties i have come to realize how blessed i am to have had the life experience i've had as a single woman. i am the first in many many generations to not have kids and be married by my age..
life is beautiful and love is divine!
Miss Ahmad, Supa and Blah...
I have to tell you ladies that I love reading your blogs. While I do enjoy all of the younger bloggers and live vicariously through their exploits....you three are my generation so I really relate to your topics.
Thanks so much for the Anniversary love. We spent the entire day playing with the kids and cleaning our basement :)
That's REAL love for ya!
Happy Anniversary!
My husband and I have been together for nearly 11 years. We have been separated twice, divorced and re-married. Both of our sons were conceived while we were separated (the youngest after we were divorced). And I can honestly say that we keep coming back to each other because we were simply meant to be.
Yes, a grown man will work the last good nerve you own, but in the end, isn't it all worth it? I mean, doesn't your heart just smile when you see this man who adores you and the beautiful children that you have together. Knowing that you no longer have to play the games that single people play...
Best wishes and I wish you continued happiness, strength and love...it ain't easy, it's just OUR job to make it look that way!
^Phoenix
You and your hubby are fighting the battle too. It is a challenge but you either believe in the love or you don't. Thanks for the good thoughts. Oh yeah, your kids are beautiful :)
Post a Comment
Subscribe to Post Comments [Atom]
<< Home