Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Would I lie to you?

Do you ever judge yourself?

You know, when you sit and do a complete self assesment of where you are, how you are behaving, your life...period?

I tend to do this alot. I find myself thinking about my actions, what I could be doing better, how I can be a better person. I know I am FAR from perfect. Hell, I am flawed as hell. I do the best I can and sometimes I slip up. Sometimes, I get out of pocket and I need to check myself.

I don't always say I am sorry to people but I do say it to the CREATOR. I have to hope that is enough sometimes.

I am stubborn. I like to call it being tenacious. Whenever you look up Cancer's horror-scope, it says things like "moody" and "tenacious". That is code for evil and stubborn. LOL

I am a highly opinionated individual. My opinions are not always good. Sometimes, I am judgemental. But see, I know these things. They make me who I am.

I don't trust people easily. My friend FRESH says that it's cause I am from NY. It makes me feel like folks always have an ulterior motive. He may be on to something. I still think I feel that way because many people are shady to the core.

Either way, I do take note of these traits on the self-assessment.

My friends say I judge myself too harshly. I still do it. Why? Because I know that they don't always know how my mind works. I may say the right thing and do the rght thing but in my head....I am cursing people out and wishing they would just go away.

My thing is this.....you can lie to others.....you can't lie to yourself. What are your faults?

20 Comments:

Blogger BK said...

like you.. I overanalyze and beat myself up a lot.. continuously checking myself but that's cause I'm dealing with 2 people.. that Gemini syndrome.. but such is life.. I find that I value certain peoples opinion of me too much and I'm working on that.. I am always striving to do the best in everything I do but I forget sometimes that I can't be the BEST at everything.. its about growth and I'm learning to accept that I grow differently in different things..

our posts are similar today.. :) great minds think alike.. LOL

and cancer.. LOL secret for what? is that what I have to look forward to from my son?

5:41 AM  
Blogger 1969 said...

BK...Cancers are very introspective. Think of us like a crab. We have a tough exterior, soft interior but to get through to us you have to break the shell.
We also are peacful, walk around, mind our own business. Sometimes people forget what we are capable of because we seem so nice....then we SNAP the claws on em. LOL
And Cancer men are ALL momma's boys :)

5:49 AM  
Blogger onefromphilly said...

I have the potential to be volatile, violent and vindictive. I work on suppressing these everyday. And because I really am such a fair person, I know that these only arise when I'm provoked. Very rarely do I strike first and I never go after the innocent. So when ever these ugly tendencies rise up, I apologize to God and ask for the strength to grow past this. Cause I really am too old to be scrappin in the street with folk!!!

6:24 AM  
Blogger Ms.Honey said...

As BK said to me it must be a day of evaluation...theres something about recognizing your faults and positives and making things better....ain't nothing like being honest with yourself

7:43 AM  
Blogger Sepiatonz said...

You can't lie to yourself????? Puhleeeze, I so think you can..LOL. I did it a lot before I walked across an honest mirror. Now I'm counting points like a mug!

Seriously though, being from NYC as well, I can sometimes be critical of others...leary even. I don't know if this is a fault but I think I care about what others think about me too much.

7:45 AM  
Blogger Drea said...

Ouch, my toes have been stepped on. I think about my thoughts, actions and reactions alot. I know that I can say some ugly things and do the same. I also know that most of the time it is a reaction to something someone did to me. Does that make it right, well, it sure makes me feel better.

I do not apologize most of the time unless I feel bad about it. If I feel bad then I know it had to be bad. Otherwise, I just have a talk with God and pray that he works on me. I have also tried to learn to control how I respond to other's behavior but I haven't quite gotten there yet. Not even close.

I don't trust folks and I always question their motives. I wasn't always that way. But one day I woke up and realize that people can be mean and selfish and so now I expect them all to be that way - out for self.

In my independence I have taught myself that no one is going to look out for me better than me. That comes off as me not knowing how to be "us". But the truth of the matter is it is my survival skills.

I too am opinionated and judgemental at times and for the longest I kept praying that these things would change and they haven't so far.

You said something that made me
re-think my desire to "fix" myself. I am not broken, just human. All of these things make me - me. Take it or leave it. I am going to keep it real no matter what.

8:40 AM  
Blogger Gemini Girl aka GG said...

being a gemini like bklyn diva I have to agree..we tend to overanalyze everything...and I 2nd guess my decisions to a fault beating myself up no matter which way I turn I'm getting better at it and I'm learning to stand by all my decisions and be proud of 95% of em, lol..one thing I do is make a list each night..what will I improve the next day..and if I get one of those things accomplished I feel productive!..my moms a cancer and wow you've described her to a TEE!! (and I don't mean Lady TEE) LOL

oh my biggest fault? I eat ice cream in bed every night I should weigh a ton!!

10:49 AM  
Blogger chele said...

I don't trust people and I almost never give 2nd chances.

11:01 AM  
Blogger Miz JJ said...

I can co-sign with chele, but I do not think it is as that bad of a fault. Lol. I kid, I know that I need to give second chances, but once my trust is lost I feel like a fool to trust that person again.

11:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well you know we share at least one trait....we don't trust people easily. Let's see...what else...I'm real analytical at times and another one which is probably the biggest one: I have this shell that I hide under that serves as a way of helping me deal with things by myself before searching for help. I guess I need to open up more.

11:16 AM  
Blogger Shai said...

I can relate. My good, good friend says I am way to harsh on myself. Hence, I can be harsh on others at times. Then I can be so mushy with myself and feel a ton of compassion for others. I can be moody. Us Leos can purr one minute and roar the next, sometimes biting too. LOL. I am close to the Cancer/Leo line so I have some Cancer tendencies.

11:44 AM  
Blogger A.u.n.t. Jackie said...

I am apprehensive of trusting people..so i tend to keep folks at a distance. I have a huge smile and warm heart but i'm really really private and don't like allot of people running in and out of my life.

I'm a total work a holic which has been hell on my love life.

I'm a total flirt and slightly commitment phoabic which has also been hell on my love life..

these things I know about myself and I don't try to pretend I'm not who I am...there's no need cuz the truth comes out in the wash!

2:14 PM  
Blogger 1969 said...

The 1969 Blog readers are so honest. I appreciate everyone sharing their faults today. It's what makes us humans and real.

People with no faults or issues have no real friends....think about it.

2:19 PM  
Blogger Jameil said...

i def. overanalyze things. i hold people to the same standards i hold myself which is not always best for the person at the time. i procrastinate like my life depends on it. i don't save enough but know what? i'm doing better than i was this time a year ago. i'm only 24. still a work in progress as i expect to be for at least the next 60 years.

3:03 PM  
Blogger Jameil said...

oh yeah... why am i surrounded by cancers? my mom, my boyfriend, 2 of my close college friends and on and i'm sure i could go on and on. y'all are a special breed, that's for sure. :)

3:04 PM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

Okay Lemme take a deep breath. " I LIKE BIG BUTTS!!!! You know those round porno type asses.The ones that jingle and jangle.

As you can see. It is almost impossible for me to take anything seriously. I play too damn much. I guess its my way of hiding my true feeling about a situation.

I'm trying to change but its so damn hard. I find humor in any and everything. I remember my boy told me his dog died my response " Who's gonna wash your balls now" I know I know I'm horrible....:( I'm trying to change.

3:23 PM  
Blogger Gemini Girl aka GG said...

*smh* at Mr. Slish.....lol (NOT)

5:02 AM  
Blogger Ms. Lee said...

Yes, you can lie to yourself, by not seeing yourself as who you really are. Sometimes to convince yourself you are happy, or a situation was okay. I've done it. Vow to never do it again.

Flaws, faults:

I overanalyze.

I try to label things as black and white when there is sometimes a grey area.

I don't trust that easily. And like the rest of you NYC'ers, I don't trust easily. But I tend to sit back and give people a chance without letting on that I am leery of them.

I am judgemntal, though I'll turn around and have a 'live and let live' attitude sometimes. That part is a little psychotic, even to me.

Sometimes, I hide behind humor to deflect difficult issues, or to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

If I don't respect a person, I prefer to not speak to them, than be nasty, which I will be. Oh. And that was a new development, because I used to just pretend that I would never say or do anything like that.

There is a dark side.

12:29 PM  
Blogger Virtuous said...

Guuurrlll....I am all the way stubborn, impatient, complain from time-to-time, and can be a little harsh with folks :op

Thanks GOD for HIS blood! WHOA!

5:31 AM  
Blogger Still Patrice said...

I am stubborn. I like to call it being tenacious. Whenever you look up Cancer's horror-scope, it says things like "moody" and "tenacious". That is code for evil and stubborn. LOL

~lol, that's supposed to be a secret!

~~~ I would fill your blog if I even dared to list ALL my issues... But the main one is that I am SELFISH and SPOILED ROTTEN, to the point that I make decisions and take actions b/c I know that he will accept/forgive me.

I'm working on it. I know he doesn't deserve it.

~~Your blog is like therapy for real~~

8:57 AM  

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